The more tarot readings I do, the more I understand how we are all our own worst enemy. On more times than I can count, the answer to why someone is finding it hard to progress forward, is that there is something internally that is keeping them anchored to that spot.
We are constantly getting in our own way and it stops us from reaching our true potential. There is always a practical way to get something done, but a mental block can leave you feeling completely helpless and at a loss of what plans to put in place.
The good news is that there are ways for you to get out of your own way, and all it takes is a little patience, self-love and determination.
Acknowledge your strengths
One of the first things to go when faced with a tricky challenge is our self-confidence. Our mind wants to protect us from the hurt of failure, so it makes up ‘facts’ about us to stop us from taking risks. These ‘facts’ often revolve around not being good enough, qualified enough or experienced enough.
In order to clap back at your own fake news, you need to remind yourself what your strengths are and back them up with real life evidence.
For example:
Even though I’ve done more then my fair share of tarot readings, I still have moments of wondering whether I really am skilled as a reader. I start to doubt my abilities and this can sometimes stop me from offering to read for others.
To combat that, I have to remind myself that I’ve done multiple tarot reading courses, that I have passed with flying colours. That I have done loads of readings for clients with exceptional feedback, plus a lot of my clients have been referred to me based on the way I read and the aftercare I provide.
All of this is real world evidence that I am skilled in this area and that I am more than qualified to offer this service. By acknowledging this, I’m rewiring my brain to see just how capable I am and reassuring it that I can handle anything that comes from my risk taking.
Identify what failure looks like to you and challenge those beliefs
What does it mean to you to fail? What things have to happen for you to think “well, that’s it, I’ve failed“? One of the biggest roadblocks in any entrepreneurs journey, is coming face to face with failure. Nobody wants to fail at something, but sometimes it’s a necessary evil.
In order to be afraid of failure, we need to know what failure looks like to us. Once you’ve identified what your idea of failure looks like, you can start to pull it apart and question whether you really would have ‘failed’ if those things actually happened.
Are there other avenues open to you if one path doesn’t work out? Are there ways that you can adjust, pick yourself up and continue on if something happens? Once you’ve failed, that’s never the end of the road. If we all stopped doing anything every time we failed, we’d all be sat around doing nothing. The only way is up when you’ve failed at something, so it can be the best thing to ever happen to you.
Stop second guessing yourself
When you’re running your own business, you have to heavily rely on your own ideas, smarts and intuition. It can be tricky to learn to trust yourself enough to act on your own instincts, but this is something you need to be able to do if you want to be able to build something spectacular.
Be more mindful of the way you talk to yourself, ask yourself if you were your own employee, would you speak to you the same way? Would you be so quick to dismiss that employees ideas and decisions? Many of you may be solopreneurs, so treating yourself as both employee and employer could really help in making your entrepreneur brain work with your emotional gut.
Remove unnecessary pressure
We are our own worst critic and we can often put way too much pressure on ourselves. Whether it’s too tight of a deadline or an outlandish goal, too much pressure can be an instant roadblock on the journey to success.
Really evaluate the goals you’ve set for yourself and break them down month by month, week by week or even day by day. This will help you figure out if your overall goal is something that is not only achievable but also allows you time to take care of your mental and spiritual wellbeing. You may even realise that some of your goals don’t require you to sprint and you can push things back a lot more than you had initially thought.
Identify why you are self-sabotaging
If we are getting in our own way, it may be for some deeper, subconscious reason that we haven’t uncovered yet. It might be that we just aren’t ready to take a certain step, or it’s something we only think we want and not something we actually need.
There are so many different reasons why we may be putting up obstacles for ourselves and if things really aren’t going the way you thought they would, it may be time to dig a little deeper. To uncover these subconscious feelings, the best tools are:
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Meditation – at least 10-20 minutes a day
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Daily journaling (it only works if you’re brutally honest with yourself!)
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Daily oracle card pulls
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Monthly tarot readings
Our subconscious is the keeper of truth and our minds keep these things from us because we are happier not knowing. Ignorance is bliss as they say. However, if we are getting frustrated with our own progress, it may be time to face the darker sides of ourselves in order to move forward.
Even if you’re not 100% sure that you are the one stopping yourself from moving forward, it’s worth checking in and making sure there’s nothing else going on underneath the surface. You may find that a bit of inner work is the key to unlocking everything you have to offer and finally being able to reach that mega goal you’ve always wanted to reach.
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